Category Archives: Interviews

Call for Submissions

Over the past months I have been approached by a number of women looking for information on a variety of topics – topics I would LOVE to see covered here, but have no personal experience of. One of the keys of The Happy Womb is valuing women’s sharing from authentic personal experience, rather than dry journalistic “expert” voices telling you what to do, feel and think. I receive almost daily requests to host content from companies and pro bloggers, but I am committed to only hosting empowering words written from women’s personal experience. So I am opening up submissions on a number of topics:

  • Endemetriosis
  • Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome
  • Transgender and Gender reassignment
  • Being born without a womb
  • Mothering your daughter into womanhood
  • Miscarriage
  • Infertility journeys
  • IVF and IUI
  • Surrogacy
  • Abortion
  • Over Active Bladder and loss of Pelvic Floor
  • Menopause and Perimenopause

Publication on The Happy Womb is not paid, but gives high exposure to your words and experiences, and supports and helps our community of women. It is promoted via all social media. Please note whilst this may be an attractive option for many bloggers, it is also open to those who have no online presence or are currently building it up. Each submission is judged on its own merits and fit with the ethos of this site. Please be assured that this is a safe space where no comments are published until approved, you are safe from trolling and aggression here. I am happy to publish work under pseudonyms if required, to protect your privacy online.

Articles should be:

  • Written from a personal perspective. Focusing on your own healing journey, self care and experience.
  • Can recommend products from a personal perspective but may not be advertorial.
  • 400-1000 words long, plus author bio and image.
  • Author bio can contain links to your other work, websites,business, books, Facebook pages.
  • Should be accompanied by at least one other image if possible.
  • All articles are subject to editing.
  • You will be notified within a week if your work has been accepted, and will be contacted later when it is published.

Submissions open to August 30th 2013. Email to Lucy (AT) the happy womb (DOT) com

I really look forward to receiving your work and sharing your words with The Happy Womb community.

 

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Having the talk – supporting your girl, and yourself, through her transition to womanhood


Do you remember “The Talk” you received from your Mum, or your school nurse or teacher? How old were you when someone told you about how your body would change as you became a woman?

How did it make you feel?

And now, you have a daughter of your own. Or maybe a niece or goddaughter. Or maybe you are a teacher of girls. And you know that one day, The Talk will be your responsibility. And you are aware of just what a responsibility it is. How it will flavour her own self-image as a woman for much of her early adult life.

What do you say and how will you approach it?

DeAnna L’Am is a menstrual educator of 25 years experience who has created a powerful audio entitled:  “Coming Of Age: How To Stop Worrying About “The Talk,” and Start Talking With Your Girl!” which is part of an incredible eBundle of 22 Mindful Mothering resources which are available for the special price of just $24.95 until June 10th. This recording alone usually costs $29. And yet for that price you get so much more goodness as well.

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She shares a little bit with us here, of her own experience which lead to her powerful work with girls and women:

“My first period lacked warmth, celebration, or a sense of belonging, though my mother was present. This experience propelled me to a lifelong passion for welcoming girls into womanhood in empowering and honoring ways. I worked to heal the experience of my own first period, and as a result realized that most every woman has a story to tell, and heal, from her coming of age years. My calling became that of helping women heal their own adolescence, as the spring board to welcoming girls into womanhood in authentic and empowering ways.

This down-loadable recording will deepen trust between you and your girl, and lay a foundation for lifelong openness between you!

If you would you like to feel relaxed, confident, and at ease when speaking with your girl about becoming a woman – this is for you!

You will experience a sense of CALM and PEACE within yourself; An INNER EASE about the girl YOU once were; A DEEPER UNDERSTANDING of what your girl is feeling; SELF-TRUST going into any conversation with your girl; And a growing EASE in your relationship with her.”

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The Mindful Parenting eBundle gives you answers to the most pertinent parenting questions in a variety of formats: e-mail courses, e-books, audio, and e-magazine. Some of the topics in this bundle include children and food, nurturing creativity, relaxation for parents, connecting through play, peaceful parenting, parenting through divorce, and many more.

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CHECK IT OUT HERE …(Got questions? I’ve probably answered them in the FAQ section here.) 

 

 

Let Your Monkey Do It – An Interview with Ina May Gaskin

This was the title of my article about Ina May Gaskin in The Irish Examiner today. The editor changed to Home Birth’s Best – so I’m claiming it here for my own! Here’s the opening paragraph… 

“Let’s say you want some advice that might help you give birth, wherever that might be. My shortest answer is: let your monkey do it.” So says the world’s most famous midwife, Ina May Gaskin. These words of wisdom which remind women that birth requires that we get our thinking brains out of the way and let our mammalian instincts take over, had a huge impact on me as I prepared for my first birth… at home. Like hundreds of thousands of women around the world her two best-selling books Spiritual Midwifery and Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth were my birth bibles.

Gaskin learnt to deliver babies by necessity in the back of buses in 1970, on an epic voyage across the United States with her husband Steven, a philosophy professor. They had set off from San Francisco in a convoy of 60 yellow school buses, picking up followers as they went, eventually buying land and creating an alternative community, The Farm, in Tennessee. She later trained formally as a midwife. In 2011 she was awarded the Right Livelihood Award (the “Alternative Nobel prize”) in Sweden, for her lifetime’s achievement.

I have an even bigger, better interview with her in the summer edition of JUNO magazine. But Ina May was so generous in time and spirit that I wanted to share some of the most controversial and shocking morsels that didn’t fit the two articles I wrote, but that need to be out in the world. As well as the answers to the questions that some of you suggested I ask her!

 

You spoke in your acceptance speech at The Right Livelihood Awards in 2011 about “a toxic brew” of “prudery, ignorance, profit motive and fear” 

Prudery keeps some of the best, most effective midwifery care from being seen on television, because the most woman-centered care does not require that a woman keep her body covered as she labors and gives birth.

At the same time, in this age of reality television, there is no such taboo keeping people from watching the abdominal and uterine incisions during a caesarean. When young women can’t see the bodily changes that permit birth over an intact perineum, they can’t even imagine that it could be possible, and many develop a pathological fear of their own bodies.

This same prudery, I might add, keeps some of the best Irish sheela-na-gigs stored in the basement of the Dublin’s National Museum. The Cavan sheela, for instance, is part of the Dublin collection, but the last time I checked, it was not on view. The Lavey sheela is another example. Replicas of the best sheela-na-gigs could be made and used as amulets or art to be displayed in birth rooms, whether in hospitals, birth centres or homes. I know from experience how much the open vulvas of the sheelas help women visualize what their own bodies can do in birth.

You are a passionate advocate of the need for hospitals to report the levels of maternal deaths in the US.  If figures are not reported, where do you get your statistics from?

As far as I know, the US is the only wealthy country that doesn’t use the same method in all its regions for reporting a maternal death.

Understand that here in the US, the 50 states are still not required to use the US Standard Death Certificate, so almost half do not, because changing would require effort and expense. Many maternal deaths are not reported as such, for a variety of reasons. An audit is not possible, since the CDC gets no names or reports of individual cases—just raw numbers from each state.

I get my information from the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) in Atlanta (our national agency that receives the count of maternal deaths that take place in each state every year).

In 1998, the CDC issued a short report stating that the number of maternal deaths occurring each year could be as high as three times the number officially reported.

Most states do not require that there be any review by anyone outside of a given hospital following a maternal death case. None of this, by the way, has been reported in our national media, although I’ve been doing my best for more than a decade to bring this problem to national attention [through her Safe Motherhood Quilt project.]

Concerned obstetricians in some states have made extra efforts to identify maternal deaths in a better way. California, New York, and Florida are examples. In each of those states, there has been a rather sharp increase in the number of maternal deaths over the last two decades. California Watch, an investigative journalism group, recently reported that California’s maternal death rate had tripled between 1996 and 2006. The New York Academy of Medicine reported that the maternal death rate for women of color in New York City had reached an incredible 79 per 100,000 (when the irreducible minimum of maternal deaths shouldn’t be higher than 2 or 3 per 100,000).

And from politics to spiritual insight… can you say a little about your spiritual beliefs about birth.

Every birth is sacred. I experienced the first birth that I ever had the privilege to observe as a powerful spiritual event—one that revealed a dimension that I hadn’t experienced previously. Every birth I attend has this dimension, no matter how many I attend, and I continue to find it amazing that there is no mention of spiritual energy in the textbooks that are written for midwives, physicians, and nurses.

And finally, many women have asked me to ask you if you have ever considered establishing more birthing centres based on the model of the Farm?

I seem to have enough projects without attempting to replicate anywhere else what we’ve accomplished here. I think it’s hard for people who live in countries where midwives have always been accepted as a necessary part of maternity care to imagine how difficult it is to bring back midwifery once a society has dispensed with it.